“If free to be myself I would…”


I recently took the Kolbe A Index which measures the instinctive ways you take action when you strive.

For most of these “assessments” I typically hate them. I usually want to answer every question with: “It depends!”

However, when I took the Kolbe A, there was a question that rocked my world.

Before answering each question with most and least likely, it prompts you by considering:

“If free to be myself I would…”

I repeated this phrase over and over for each question. 

I noticed there were at least 4 ways I could make my selection.

#1 – I could answer with what I actually currently do most and least.

#2 – I could answer with what I think I “should” do the most and least of.

#3 – I could answer from lens of infinite possibilities based on situation and persons.

#4 – I could answer by letting go of what I do, should do, or could do, and instead from the place within me that would feel the most FREE.

It was hard, but I stayed with each question until I found that place of freedom.

And, I was surprised how even after all these years, what I actually do and what would make me feel the most free, are not currently totally in sync.

The funny thing is… after reading my results, I realized I had taken this same assessment 5 years ago! Back then, I had gotten “transition” results which basically means you are in conflict with what you should do and what you’d really like to do and your results are inconclusive. I remember being so furious with those results and these silly types of assessments which don’t factor in the complexity of human nature, growth, and adaptability.

But, this time was different. I felt I answered truly. Sure, I “can” do all of those things depending on the situation, but which would make me feel the most free? This question has stayed with me this time around.

One of the keys to implementing this so far has been to partner with others of complementary strengths. I’ve noticed that if I’m too similar to someone else, then I naturally fill in the gap, therefore stepping OUT of most natural instincts in order to counterbalance someone else.

What I love about the way they frame the results is that no matter how you natural do things, they are important. And, when you work with someone who has different instincts, you can each honor your “mode” and create better and more efficient results as well as have a lot more fun and ease while doing so!

Now, each day before I start “doing”, I continue to ask myself:

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